There is considerable agreement that more marriages heal when the unfaithful partner answers any and all questions about his relationship with the lover. Studies show that when this happens, the married couple are better able to regain emotional intimacy, ensuring the survival of the marriage. It may seem that it’s not productive to go over the details, causing only more upset to the hurt partner. But the truth is that being willing to tell everything that happened actually rebuilds trust. The wisdom behind this strategy is that once the affair is revealed, the hurt partner has considerable gaps of knowledge about where the offending partner has been and what (s)he has been doing. Further, if you leave out details that come to light later, your partner will feel betrayed all over again. Be totally honest. A loving and trusting relationship which has total and complete honesty will help to mend the broken trust.
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